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Thursday, May 1, 2014

Signs Your Relationship Is Going Bad



It’s not easy to have a well working relationship at all times. This is because every relationship is faced with ups and downs and it takes a lot of investment to make it successful. Many people in relationships with their partner do not know what to do exactly, how much work is too much work and how much work needs to be done to make the relationship a success. Many people waste their time trying to make a relationship last while the other partner is not interested. Don’t waste your time trying to fight for a relationship if the other partner does not reciprocate or appreciate the effort you are giving out. The following is an outline of signs that a relationship is going bad.
1. Lack of Trust

Trust is one of the fundamental building blocks of any relationship. If your partner/spouse no longer trusts in whatever you tell them, then that relationship might not last for long. If you partner is ever doubtful about where you are, who you are with and does not believe in whatever you say, then that is a sign that he/she no longer trusts you. Also, if your partner is always interrogating you every time you go out, then it means he/she does not believe in whatever you do in their absence.
2. Cheating

If your partner cheats on you, then it means he/she is not getting satisfaction from your side. It could be emotional or sexual dissatisfaction which is causing them to cheat on you. As the myth goes, once a cheater always a cheater, if you find your partner cheating on you, it is always advisable to sit down and inquire what you are not offering. However, frequent cases of cheating means that the relationship is going from bad to worse.
3. Lack of Communication

A healthy relationship is the one where both partners miss each other and thus communicate countless times in a day. However, a complete lack of communication from your partner/spouse is a sign that your relationship is getting worse. Even if your partner claims to be extremely busy, he/she should get some time and talk to you. If this is not happening, it is time to re-evaluate your relationship. Lack of communication is an assurance that your partner no longer misses you and you have no place in his businesses.
4. Physical and Emotional Abuse

Any form of abuse is not acceptable in any relationship. If it happens, then it is a clear sign that the relationship is on its way out. Even if your partner apologizes after abusing you, it remains a strong signal that he/she is no longer interested in you. You should also take note that staying in an abusive relationship is very fatal and could even make you swear never to love again. If your partner abuses you, then it’s time to move out since staying in it could only make things worse.
5. Fear of Change

If your partner no longer allows you to grow, then the relationship is becoming worse. Your partner should love you always no matter if you change in size, shape, career, among other issues. If it so happens that your partner is not comfortable when you change, then that relationship is bad. A good relationship is the one that allows you to grow but if your partner’s affections depend on your looking the same way then this is a sign of a bad relationship.

If you notice the above signs from your partner, then it is very clear that your relationship is turning from bad to worse. It also means that it’s time to look for exits. A bad relationship has a lot of challenges and if you are in one, then you should be ready to sacrifice every aspect of your life.

Friday, September 18, 2009

A feeling of loss

Whenever there is someone in the family who is very dear to us died, we immediately felt lost and somehow bewildered by life's uncertainties. Although death itself is certain, its still very hard for us to accept the bitter realities that one has to go away and leave us. Others take a lifetime to let go and start rebuilding the broken self brought by sadness. I could very well relate to this, my father was taken to us when he was already 83yrs. old, some would try to console me that its okay he already had his time of his life and has done so many good things already that is why God has taken him already. But for us his children, it is still difficult to swallow the fact that our father is gone and could no longer be with us in good and bad times. As I flashback the years with him, all i can remember is the happy, loving, generous, kindhearted and caring to us and a wonderful husband to our mom. It is true that time heals all wounds, and as I look back, i could just say that everything happens for a reason and that whereever he is now im sure that he's just there in the corner watching us. He has been a great father, a mentor...and all the things that he teaches us serves our guide as we venture through life. He may have gone, but the legacy he has left on will continue and for always, in our hearts he'll always be present no matter what. The lesson here is cherished every moment you had with your loved ones, show them your love, appreciation and be grateful for every moment because life is uncertain. While there's life, enjoy it to its fullest.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Meaning of Family

Family is the basic form of society. This is the foundation in which our values were first taught and being molded, in other words, this is our first school. Therefore, our values should be cherished and nurtured. They say that a person's upbringing depends on the kind of family that he/she has. That is why, as we go along, we encounter various kinds of personalities ranging from good, not so good, bad, not so bad...etc...inside our respective family though, we encounter different attitudes that could cause chaos in the family but things like these can easily be solve. When we say of family, it immediately connects to the idea that every one is closely bonded...united in every way. This is where we primarily get the support we needed and the genuine love and care we enormously wanted.